There are times in our healing when what we need is so important that we must find a way to translate what is nearly always written by non-severe early abuse and trauma survivors presumably for the SAME — into something we who ARE such survivors can understand and work with.
My guess is that as Shelley Redford Young and Robert O. Young wrote the words I am going to include in this post in their book, The pH Miracle: Balance Your Diet, Reclaim Your Health they had no thought for the kind of lives — usually greatly difficult and shortened lives — that infant and child abuse survivors endure. Because I don’t see how I can continue to live much longer or with any quality of life in a body that has lost the ability to digest ANYTHING without a run immediately to the bathroom I am left without any choice but to try to find a way to help myself to heal.
There are wonderful ideas in the following passage and there is nothing actually preventing we survivors from apply this wisdom to our own situation. I do feel it is important for me and other survivors to keep in mind NOTHING about our life is as it might seem to people who are completely uninformed about what early severe trauma can do to its victims. Yes, STRESS is STRESS – and even though we have lived with great traumatic stress and its distress, the physiological impact on our body CAN be lessened.
Enough. Here is a section from the chapter “Motivation — How to Get It, How to Keep It” from the book mentioned above that is the basis of my current cleansing, healing efforts.
THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS
“Those who wish to regain their health [note: Severe early abuse and trauma in childhood greatly interferes with our ability to grow up entirely healthy in the first place. This in NO way prevents us from healing to the best of our ability!] or prevent health challenges must be properly motivated to address the issue on all fronts, including eating, drinking and thinking. This is not just a diet; the true pH miracle is a lifestyle.
“The eating and drinking part is actually sometimes the easiest. The “thinking” part includes your thought processes, belief system, psychological health, emotional well-being, personal level of consciousness, and an entire host of attitudes, feelings, and behaviors.
Emotions can cause even more acid [not good, harms the body] than food and drink. Powerful negative emotions come from all sorts of places and in all shapes and forms. They can include thoughts, feelings, experiences, conscious and unconscious memories [I certainly include the vast amount of body-based trauma memories survivors of infant and child abuse trauma and neglect carry], and dreams. Any of the many and various problems in living can cause emotional trauma. They all come under the umbrella of “stress.” And stress causes signficant amounts of acid to be dumped into your body.
“The great majority of people, even people in the most profound medical crisis, can return [note: Don’t let this concept stop you!] to an excellent level of health if they conscientiously work to rebalance the body’s original alkaline design. Conscientiously changing their eating, drinking, and lifestyle, and carefully following the pH Miracle program, they can and will be successful. They can return to a level of health they have no experienced for many years, a level of health they never even quite imagined.
“But a small percentage of people fail to find full good health despite working hard to change their unhealthy eating and drinking habits. They share one crucial trait in common: They are challenged by psychological, emotional, behavioral, or spiritual problems that, perhaps, they do not fully address [note: Well, we survivors have more of these and suffer from them more intensely than I believe these authors could ever “quite imagine.” Improved health is STILL our birthright!], and in any case do not fully resolve. [note: Personally, being honest and completely realistic, given the extent of my infant-child abuse history I don’t believe it is humanly OR miraculously possible to “fully resolve” the extensive trauma-based troubles I AND my body face. But I am giving this my ALL anyway!] Where they fall down [note: Grr! Knocked down and nearly crushed to death during our most vulnerable stages of development is more like it! I have to say, this kind of bias IRKS ME! I’d like to see any non-survivor live through and live with the consequences we survivors do! Anyway, continuing to focus on the positive, I continue. We DO do some of what the authors describe and we can always make improvements.] is at the “thinking” part of the pH protocol. Their patterns of thinking, ruminations, and emotions aren’t addressed in enough detail. Unhealthy beliefs, attitudes, biases, value systems, or a diminished level of consciousness hold these people back. They seem unable to bring an end to ongoing guilt [note: I would certainly add shame.], grief, blaming, resentment, anger, self-pity, fear, anxiety, feuding, self-loathing mistrust, greed, false pride, spiritual confusion, and son on. Perhaps they need professional guidance to deal with whichever of these issues dogs them, but do not seek it. The stress of all this adds significantly to the acid in the body, and not even an alkaline diet can fully balance it out. [note: I would say the diet changes are a very good start!]
“When physical health challenges are accompanied by serious emotional and psychological problems [note: I would say, very frequently so closely caused by these that we have huge difficulty disentangling the two.], you must somehow address them. Despite what you may be thinking, it is not always a “shrink” that provides the answer. There are many ways to relieve stress and begin to reduce this part of the acidic overload. Of course it’s true a well-trained and experienced psychologist, psychotherapist, or psychiatric social worker can make a critical difference. But so can a minister, priest, rabbi, or other spiritual adviser with years of experience and wisdom. A good book can set you on the right path. Reading the works of great thinkers in the realm of intellect and spirit is an excellent way to change your mind-set and quietly challenge the type of thinking that keeps your body mired in an acidic lockstep. (Some of our favorite books are by David. R. Hawkins, MD, PhD, who writes about the body/sense/mind/intellect/spirit continuum so clearly that simply reading his work will immediately raise your level of consciousness.) You may want to study the stories of miracle workers, saints and mystics, religious martyrs, past-life experiences, near-death experiences, people who apparently died and came back to life, and the lives of Great Spiritual Souls such as Jesus, Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Mohammad, Joseph Smith, Brigham Young and Shirdi Sai Balba. As you become more aware of how higher consciousness actually operates, it helps you leave behind some of those thoughts and behaviors that pull you down. Higher consciousness equates to more peace and alkalinity for the body. Lower consciousness equates to more turmoil and the creation of unwanted acid.
“To fully experience the pH Miracle for yourself, you must explore, pursue, investigate, read, inquire, and search for answers that set your mind at ease. Why do bad things happen to good people? What are we to learn from accidents, devastating illnesses, or setbacks in life? How is it that some people seem to be able to forgive and forget or simply turn the other cheek? How can you learn to do that? What does it mean when people say, “Expect a miracle?” What does it mean when people say, “There are no mistakes in life?” These are questions that everyone must answer for themselves. Look for ways to answer. Develop understanding.
“To gain or regain your ultimate goals in health and wellness [note: Well put.], your motivations must reach out far enough to encompass the broadest spectrum of the world around you. You must strive to eat the foods that bring healthy physical and mental processes to your life, drink the fluids that help to cleanse and purify your body, create the thoughts in life that allow you to forgive yourself, cut others some clack, look only for the good in every situation, and bring peace and understanding to yourself and those around you.
“The value of change is the result. In this case, the peace and harmony that can arise from embracing the change of this program as part of everyday life are yours for the asking.” (pages 240-242)
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