Sometimes it is very difficult for me to explain to readers much of the critically important information that exists about how early relationship trauma changes the way the brain develops. The most important relationship an infant has from birth is WITH ITS MOTHER. The most important brain region’s development being determined by the quality of a mother-infant face-to-face, body-to-body happens in the right social-emotional brain hemisphere before the infant reaches its first birthday.
I know that I did not have an adequate relationship with my abusive Borderline Personality Disorder mother so that I could develop my right brain correctly. ALL insecurely attached infants suffer changes in this brain region’s ability to process social emotional information because their mother could not do it properly for the INFANT. Mother’s literally DOWNLOAD their own brain into the growing brain of their infant. This is a horrific thought for those of us who had troubled mothers.
A friend of mine on Facebook posted a video I watched last night that is a great one for those of us who suffered right brain developmental changes due to traumas before we were one year old. This is about an hour long but can be paused and returned to over time.
ESPECIALLY because this video DOES NOT INCLUDE WORDS it provides an excellent healing opportunity for infant abuse and neglect survivors to watch the body language and ESPECIALLY the facial expressions of the participants in these funny scenarios. Normally people can READ these signals accurately. Infant abuse and neglect survivors CANNOT do this normally. Be aware as you watch it that what you are seeing is what NORMAL people know BECAUSE those communication abilities were built into their brain during the first year of their life by SAFE and SECURE interactions with healthy mothers.
In watching the movie, Temple Grandin, last week I had yet another opportunity to apply what I now know about myself as an abuse survivor. Autistic people’s right social-emotional brain does not process information normally, either. My brain is more like THIS than it is like normal. I have learned to understand body language and facial expressions, as well as expressive intonations in speech by WATCHING other people – just as Temple Grandin has.
This means that BEING HUMAN in all its wide range of communication abilities is NOT our first language!! We are ALWAYS at a disadvantage when it come to understanding what being a communicative, expressive human being is truly about.
Watching this video at the link above presents a wonderful opportunity to study what I am talking about. I wish I could slow the video down. The actual MUSCLE responses in the face humans use for expression are sending singles at the rate of one every tiny fraction of a millisecond. In fact, it has only been in the past decade that researchers have had sophisticated enough photographic abilities to be able FINALLY to stop-action the stages involved in mother-infant facial communications accurately.
Again I refer to Dr. Allan Schore’s important (yes, and obtuse) article that describes how all humans either acquire or DO NOT acquire necessary brain-based abilities to follow and to participate in these human communication strategies in a normal way.
EFFECTS OF A SECURE ATTACHMENT RELATIONSHIP ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH by Dr. Allan N. Score – IMPORTANT ARTICLE
Google search Allan Schore along with ‘infant mother attachment’ for further reading
Answers to many questions – found at this post:
I need to return to the book writing!! Lots to read at this link above in the meantime!!!! Please also click through the months’ of posts connected to the archive links on the right side of this blog. This blog’s top search bar can also be used to locate posts with topic related to child abuse and the Trauma Altered Development it causes in its survivors.