Just want to highlight a link in my previous post — Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children: Consequences of Emotional Neglect in Childhood
By Bruce D. Perry MD, PhD
The most important property of humankind is the capacity to form and maintain relationships. These relationships are absolutely necessary for any of us to survive, learn, work, love, and procreate. Human relationships take many forms but the most intense, most pleasurable and most painful are those relationships with family, friends and loved ones. Within this inner circle of intimate relationships, we are bonded to each other with “emotional glue” – bonded with love.
Each individual’s ability to form and maintain relationships using this “emotional glue” is different. Some people seem “naturally” capable of loving. They form numerous intimate and caring relationships and, in doing so, get pleasure. Others are not so lucky. They feel no “pull” to form intimate relationships, find little pleasure in being with or close to others. They have few, if any, friends, and more distant, less emotional glue with family. In extreme cases an individual may have no intact emotional bond to any other person. They are self-absorbed, aloof, or may even present with classic neuropsychiatric signs of being schizoid or autistic [and VERY often is related to the range of personality disorders such as Borderline].
The capacity and desire to form emotional relationships is related to the organization and functioning of specific parts of the human brain. Just as the brain allows us to see, smell, taste, think, talk, and move, it is the organ that allows us to love – or not. The systems in the human brain that allow us to form and maintain emotional relationships develop during infancy and the first years of life. Experiences during this early vulnerable period of life are critical to shaping the capacity to form intimate and emotionally healthy relationships. Empathy, caring, sharing, inhibition of aggression, capacity to love, and a host of other characteristics of a healthy, happy, and productive person are related to the core attachment capabilities which are formed in infancy and early childhood. [I added the bold type for emphasis]
Read the rest of this article by clicking on its title — Bonding and Attachment in Maltreated Children: Consequences of Emotional Neglect in Childhood
The more stressed mothers become, the less likely the right kind of bonding and attachment is going to happen. The individual, society and the planet suffer as a result.
Please also take a look at what the longterm consequences of early neglect and abuse are according to Center for Disease Control research – THE PYRAMID
We need to know these FACTS!!