I am in need of writing a post about purity and goodness!! A dear friend sent me a poster about angels in my birthday card yesterday. It came from this site: Special-Ideas.
I feel like nearly every single thing a survivor of an abusive Borderline mother (parent) has to say is really nothing more than part of their obituary. These people suffer, I am coming to believe more and more strongly, from a sickness that obliterates the expression of their soul in the world during their lifetime.
When God tells humans that no soul will ever be burdened beyond its endurance, I am coming to understand that there is a way this happens that would defy belief if we survivors of Borderline mothers didn’t know what we know by being their offspring.
I firmly believe that early trauma so changed the physiological development of these Borderlines that no pathway to the visibility of their SOUL remains – or very, very little of it. What happens instead is that EVIL takes over the lives of these people BECAUSE the powers of their soul have been obliterated.
The changes their body-brain took in order to survive their early trauma happened because the trauma would have overwhelmed them TO DEATH otherwise. The changes actually protect their soul – as strange as that might seem — from being overwhelmed at the same time their physical life is protected from ending.
The ONLY redeeming factor to this debilitating and HORRIBLE disease is that the person who has it DOES survive and VERY often has offspring. But these mothers (parents) ARE NOT CAPABLE of raising their own children. I don’t believe nature EVER intended that they even try — or be allowed to. Only in a broken society would these mothers be left to torture their children (and sometimes kill them). Nature wanted the GENES to endure — but not for these sick mothers to raise their offspring.
In my effort today to bring a little balance to the topic of the evil that really is the life of severely abusive Borderline mothers I want to present some of the information on this angel poster I received yesterday for my 60th birthday:
Are You an Angel?
There are many theories about the nature of angels. Bahai’s believe that angels are ordinary souls whose spirits are so aligned with the Will of God that they are allowed to be of service to people here on earth.
The exciting news is that you don’t have to die to become an angel! All you have to do is practice angelic virtues such as kindness, honesty and perseverance, and you too will be allowed to perform miracles of love for people on earth.
The poster lists virtues and I added some. The way I understand it, the way this virtue-angel ‘thing’ works is this.
All good comes from the one God who sent Messengers to earth with His lessons all the way through the evolution of the human race. Humans are creatures of temptations, and our soul is like a mirror. If our mirror faces only the material/animal part of our existence our soul mirror becomes covered with grime and cannot reflect the goodness that comes from God.
As we apply ourselves to turning our soul mirror toward God (I picture reflective satellite dishes!) and apply ourselves to cleaning and polishing the mirror of our soul, then we can reflect more and more goodness until we become like angels – or in fact become an angel!!
The sad part of the story is that Borderline Personality Disorder takes away from the afflicted the ability to participate in this kind of choice-making! That is their sickness – and I am not at all convinced that no matter how despicable their behavior that they have choice like the non-sick people do.
ANYWAY….. here is a list of some virtues. The ability to reflect these virtues of goodness on anything like a consistent and genuine level is missing from a severe Borderline:
COURAGE – WISDOM – JUSTICE – STRENGTH – NOBILITY – HOPE – KNOWLEDGE – REVERENCE – PATIENCE – RADIANCE – UNITY – SERENITY – RESPECT – PEACEFULNESS – GENTLENESS – GRATITUDE – MODERATION – HUMOR – OBEDIENCE – IDEALISM – COOPERATION – MODERATION – LOYALTY – DONFIDENCE – COURTESTY – WONDER – CLEANLINESS – IMAGINATION – HUMILITY – TRUST – HONESTY – COMPASSION – FAITH – MODESTY – CHASTITY – KINDNESS – PERSERVERANCE – GRACE – JOYFULNESS – LOVE – MERCY – PURITY – CURIOSOTY – REASON – PRAYERFULNESS – RESPONSIBILITY – SELFLESSNESS – SERVICE – EMPATHY – SINCERITY – FRIENDLINESS – GENEROSITY – ENTHUSIASM – INTEGRITY – WISDOM – DISCERNMENT – RADIANCE – FAIRNESS – HAPPINESS ————
The important point for survivors of severe relationship trauma is that when a human soul is blocked by diseases of the body that interfere with a person’s ability to BE WELL – it is like they are in a coma!! They are sleep-walking! That early trauma that happens to an infant-child during their very first HUGELY important growth and developmental stages has the power to change physiological development and create these severe illnesses IS VERY REAL!! I believe the early trauma actually triggers survival genetic combinations such as Borderline that would NEVER have been triggered if the early traumas had not had to change development so that these people could PHYSICALLY survive.
But I do not believe the SOUL of the person is present and accounted for in this lifetime. God, of course, is the only One who knows – and who judges, has mercy, and forgives all of us – but a Borderline like my mother was does not have the capacity to even know that something was wrong with her!
The rest of us have full choice what we wish to do with our souls in this lifetime. Once we realize that even the virtues listed above have to take place THROUGH a person’s body in their lifetime. If the development of an infant-child’s body, nervous systems-brain, vagus nerve system, immune system, etc. WERE ALL CHANGED due to Trauma Altered Development, then the MEANS to express these listed virtues has been tampered with, altered and damaged.