+OUR HEALING WORK: EXPECTING THE BACKLASH

And one of those ways is for me to be very, very careful about returning to any specific memory and its details from my abusive/traumatic infant-childhood. I DO NOT advocate returning to the ‘scenes of the crimes’ as we can ever do that easily.

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+RESLIENCY FACTORS AND THE ‘AT LEAST….’ GAME

+++++++++++++++++++++ When it comes to being outside the circle of ordinary/normal infant/child socialization, I might just about be an expert.  SO ‘at least’ my unusual perceptions as an ‘outsider’ allows me to think/perceive/suspect/wonder about things that ordinary/normal people (NOT severely abused and traumatized from birth people) might never consider. Before I even write another word [...]

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+’MAKING SENSE’ OUT OF ABUSE/TRAUMA – FINDING THE CONTEXT

All severe infant-child abuse survivors had heavy-weight risk factors AND heavy-weight resiliency factors. How can we move toward healing if we don’t know the fullest context possible of what happened to us so that we can consider both?

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+DEAD CHILDREN: LEAVES FALLEN FROM THE FAMILY TREE

Every bit of unresolved trauma from ‘back there’ found its way, sometimes in trickles, sometimes in roaring rivers, into the ocean of sadness, violence, confusion, loss and rage that fed the abuse that happened to us.

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+GUEST POSTS ALWAYS WELCOME! AN INVITATION

We can all describe and document our experiences as infant-child abuse survivors. The growing body of this information, as it is contained in our stories and experiences, is growing online to become a most valuable resource for everyone — no matter what stage of our journey of life we are writing about.

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+CONVERSATIONS CONTINUED: DIFFERENCE BETWEEN NEED AND GREED

What’s the difference between need and greed — and can we even tell the difference?

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+PATTERNS OF CONVERSATION – SOOTHING OR NOT?

Our attachment and our caregiving systems are so linked together than diminishing activation of one system allows for increasing activation of the other. Humans are not designed to operate with these two system dissociated from one another.

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+DISSOCIATION AND EXTERNALIZED NONAUTOBIOGRAPHICAL MEMORY

I therefore have a version of Dissociative Identity Disorder without any real, stuck-together, feeling felt version of any identity at all.

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+WHO WOULD WANT TO LIVE WITH THIS SADNESS?

Sadly alone. I hate the holidays!

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+TWO DRAWINGS MY MOTHER DID BEFORE 8TH BIRTHDAY (1933)

++++++++++++++++++++ Link here to two drawings my mother did right before her 8th birthday. *1933 Nov 5 Mildred’s 2 Indian Drawings (she was almost 8) ++++++++++++++++++++

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